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Posted: August 21, 2011 in Entertainment & Arts, Guest Blogger, Poetry

Expectations have been exceeded and all of my preconceived notions no longer exist. Because of him my insecurities are irrelevant; vanishing with every gentle touch. To him my obvious and unbecoming flaws are invisible.

Without effort or a second thought he’s disregarded my past. Ironically it’s a past that’s led me to him. My former companions are never mentioned. To him it’s unnecessary to dabble in discussions of those that are no where near being equivalent to him.

Instead, his hands, eyes, mind, and heart are focused on me. His warmth calms me. With eye contact he draws and keeps my attention; pulling me. Without hesitation I move closer. With every deep breath I take in all of him; his scent, his presence, his energy.

I become high. An indescribable high. Intoxication? For me to describe our time spent together as an intoxicated state would truly distort it’s beauty. In no way does that explanation do our experience the justice that it so righteously deserves. I become elevated…..romantically. A level of flight that I am honored to enjoy.

Our connection is rare. Our encounter was inevitable. I accept this moment and welcome it with open arms. Anxiously, I look forward to the next time I’m privileged to embrace him.


Before I begin on this essay on living an examined life I would like people to read this with an open mind and really think about what I am saying. Although my words are not as great as the articulate Dr. Cornel West I think the simple yet effective message of this essay will over shine the lack of structure and/or grammatical errors. 

This essay was inspired by an interview with Dr. Cornel West from a movie named the “Examined Life.” I really believe in Socrates’ statement “the unexamined life is not worth living.” One who lives an examined life takes time out to being self-conscious of their beliefs, thoughts, and actions. For me it starts with asking why to many things I see or use to believe. I am a firm believer that all people are just products of their particular environments and lived experiences. The environment does not have to be a physical location but a series of learned traits growing up and the experiences you have from those. This does not necessarily mean that particular person cannot grow and get out of that particular mindset and lifestyle. That is what it means to “learn how to die.” Not a physical death but a releasing of all things preconceived to really find yourself. Once you begin to be critical of yourself you can then recognize and get rid of other negative beliefs put on you by your environment, society, and/or the media. 

Some people call this an “awakening” or being “conscious.” Whatever you want to call it, it-starts with recognizing who you are as an individual. For me it starts with three things: inner-peace, self-love, and self-acceptance. Those three things spill over to peace, love, and acceptance from me to everyone else around me. This helps me think of things in a different way, instead of jumping to quick judgments about something or someone, I think of why things are the way they are. It is not always that person‘s fault. For example, many black males today view violence, women, and material possessions as solidifying their manhood. I’m sure we all know someone that would fit this description. I know at one time I myself would have fit that description, and still struggle with it to this day. Now, we can easily judge this person and think of how destructive it is to have these notions of what manhood is but take a second and think about it, this particular male is probably like this because of their environment and experiences. Many young black males today grow up in an environment without proper guidance to learn what masculinity really means. They learn from TV, music, the streets, or what other misinformed males tell them that masculinity is. Many have never had a positive male role model in their life to teach them what it means. You can apply the same thing to females who unfortunately lack guidance from positive female role models. Once we come to understand their situation we can recognize why they are the way they are, and instead of demeaning or patronizing them we can challenge them to be progressive. 

There are a couple things I would like you, the reader, to take from this essay. The first is that I want you to examine yourself and release all of your negative energy that is withholding you from reaching your goals and dreams. Many of us, as black people, tend to strive for mediocrity because there isn’t anyone pushing us to be greater. I know you want to graduate from college and get a good paying job, but what are your goals and ambitions? What impact do you want to have on the world? What’s stopping your from achieving this? The second is to release all negative preconceived notions and judgments of others. Everyone has the potential to be great. Before you judge them think about trying to help them recognize and reach their full potential. At least recognize that they have the potential to change and grow. 

Acknowledge your own need for personal and spiritual growth. Don’t be satisfied with conforming to what society tells you to be. Examining your life reveals patterns of behavior. Deeper examination brings understanding of the subconscious programming, the powerful mental “software” that runs our life. We must become aware of these patterns or else much of our life is unconscious repetition. It’s never too late to learn how to die.